Keep trying to lose weight, restore your energy or regain your health but nothing is working? It could be how you’re thinking about your success that’s holding you back. Nathalie Botezatu is a first generation Romanian-American International Mindset Coach. She helps leaders and entrepreneurs around the world heal their minds and shift limiting beliefs about what is possible within their lives and their businesses. Nathalie spent her entire life pursuing the dream she thought she wanted: to become a doctor. Two years into medical school, she found herself disappointed by the lack of mental health advocacy and dropped out to pursue helping others through her own coaching business. Nathalie has been the head mindset coach within an internationally renowned mastermind for over five years, alongside growing her own mindset coaching business, HealthNat LLC, for over six years. With over 2,000+ hours of coaching experience, Nathalie has coached clients on all continents (except Antarctica, but she’s trying to book her first penguin) and has been featured on the Money Bare, Storypreneur, A Pawdcast, Geta’s Digest, Grateful Show, Joyfully You, and the Dropset Gorgeous Radio podcasts. She has also been interviewed by FOX 2 Detroit, ShoutOut LA, VoyageLA, and published in the Journal of Scientific Reports and the Journal of Molecular Biology and Evolution for her mental health research. In this episode of The Health Fix Podcast, Dr. Jannine Krause interviews Nathalie Botezatu on what it takes to align your mindset with your goals, how to tackle procrastination and more!
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What You’ll Learn In This Episode:
- How thoughts and feelings contrary to your desires, doubt, & fear all keep you from results
- The power of getting your thoughts aligned with your goals before you take action
- Why procrastination is your body keeping you in your “safe” comfort zone
- The benefit of training your body that where you want to go is more wonderful than where you are at now!
- Why it’s key to ask yourself why you’re staying with something familiar vs trying something new
- The importance of reassuring the body it’s safe and teaching yourself you can override your false safety stories
- The power of creating your own internal safety system with the daily mental foundation of affirmations & breath work to stimulate the parasympathetic nervous system
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- IG: @nathaliebotezatu
- Nathalie Botezatu’s website
- Freebie: The Mindset Kickstart
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Podcast Transcript
2:41 – Background story
9:04 – People doing all the right things but not moving the needle on their weight
14:31 – Not aligning your career or business with what you want
22:29 – Procrastination – keeping us in our comfort zone
32:22 – Consistency with using affirmations to regulate emotions
41:51 – Nathalie’s free Mindset Kickstart course
44:07 – Where to find Nathalie Botezuta
[Intro] Welcome to the Health Fix Podcast, where health junkies get their weekly
fix of tips, tools, and techniques to have limitless energy, sharp minds, and fit
physiques for life.
Hey health junkies! On this episode of The Health Fix Podcast, I’m talking with
Mindset Coach Nathalie Botezatu. Nathalie drops some serious value.
For those of us struggling with getting results when it comes to weight loss,
energy, hormones, things of that nature.
So Natalie and I talk about procrastination and thoughts getting in the way of our goals and Natalie gives out some seriously
Good advice in this episode that you can act on today
So you don’t want to miss out on this one especially if you’re struggling with weight and energy issues
What’s interesting about Natalie is that she spent her entire life
Pursuing the dream that she thought she wanted to become a doctor
Two years into medical school, she found herself disappointed by the lack of mental health advocacy for patients and for doctors.
So she dropped out to pursue helping others.
Lucky for us, she’s here today to help us health junkies get real results with our health goals.
Let’s introduce you to Nathalie Botezatu.
JANNINE: Hey Nathalie, welcome to The Health Fix Podcast.
NATHALIE: Thank you so much for having me, Jannine, and I’m so, so happy to be here.
JANNINE: Oh man, I’m so glad that we got connected because mindset is something that I try to convey to my
patients since I’ve learned about it because honestly, I didn’t realize that it was a thing
so probably about let’s say six years ago when I was really dealing with some serious anxiety.
Isn’t that crazy?
NATHALIE: Yeah, it’s not talked about you don’t you don’t learn about it. I mean even
actual health knowledge by itself is so limited in our education system. We just have a PE class,
but are we really even taught about health in that class and then college maybe if you’re
specific, but nothing on like actual mindset, mental health. It’s not prioritized by our community.
JANNINE: No, and even naturopathic school, unless I miss that week of class, I’m pretty sure,
even in my training, like yes, we talked about the mind, body spirit and things and connections,
but we really didn’t dive into how our thoughts can really mess up our trajectory in life
if we’re not aligning things with the thoughts and the doing. And that was one of the really big
things that I wanted to talk about first with you. But before we get to that, we got to share
stories on the podcast. Tell us a little bit about how you ended up being called to be a mindset
coach.
NATHALIE: Yeah. So I’ve always known that I wanted to help people in some way and I grew up in a
immigrant household. My parents are Romanian. They moved to the States in the 80s and then I’m a
first generation Romanian American. So I grew up in the Midwest, I grew up in Michigan. And the
best thing that I could do was become a doctor. A child of immigrants. Okay, best thing I can do
do as a child of immigrants is either become a doctor, a lawyer, or an architect, or a teacher,
something that was seen by my parents as this is a good thing for you to do as our child.
And so I went on the medical path my whole life. I was like, I’m going to medical school,
I’m becoming a doctor and pretty much everything that I did my entire life was pointed in that
direction. I had a couple side hobbies as well. I played the piano. I’ve always
actually been, even before I went to medical school, I really loved nutrition.
I loved learning about the body. I loved personal like performance, like brain
performance, like biohacking all of that. I was always very, very into all of that
also. And so I went to college, got a major in biology, and then I did a year of
diabetes research at University of Michigan, and then I went to medical school for two years.
And I was so discouraged by what I was learning. And I was so discouraged how number one, we
weren’t learning healthcare. We were learning sick care. That was the truth. And also, there was
absolutely no emphasis on mental health.
Not just mental health for our patients,
but also actual mental health for physicians,
which we all know how big of a mental health crisis
there is right now for healthcare practitioners.
And so here I was in medical school,
everyone was like struggling mentally during school.
And halfway through, I finished my first round of boards.
And I was like, wait, I need a second.
So I took a year off.
And when I was in college, so a couple years prior
to being in medical school, I did start doing health coaching.
And I realized that I wanted to just take some time off
for medical school for a year.
And I was gonna just really keep pursuing
my health coaching business during that year
to make some money, but also just really connect with what I believed in and apply some of
the science based things that I was learning from medical school to my health coaching.
And I did that for a year and I realized I can’t go back.
I cannot go back to medical school.
I can’t go back to just killing myself in the process of learning things that I don’t
actually think really help people.
Because during that year of taking time off and pouring into my business, I realized
that people were actually really changing, not just short term changes in terms of weight
loss, but also long term changes in terms of how they felt about themselves, their relationships.
And so I realized that the big key to my client’s journey during that year wasn’t just what
they were doing with their nutrition. Wasn’t just what I was teaching them with how they
can work out and not have to just work out for hours and hours and a day to see progress.
But it was really the things that they were thinking and how they were prioritizing their
mindset alongside their eating habits, their exercise habits. And doing that, it was the
mental component that really skyrocketed their results. And so I did that for about
year and now I mainly work with business owners but my foundational kind of my business,
the foundation of my business was grounded in really teaching people how important their
minds are in laying of powerful foundation for physical results, physical health results
as well. So I’ve been doing that for about seven years now and it was the best decision
ever. Everyone thought I lost my brains. Everyone thought I went absolutely kukubinanas for
for dropping out of medical school and working so hard.
I mean, you know, it’s hard to get in
and everything you go through, it’s so grueling.
And everyone thought I just lost it and that I quit.
And I’m the best decision ever, best decision ever.
So I’ve been doing mindset coaching for 7 years now
and really teaching people how important their thoughts are,
their internal world is in laying a powerful foundation
for everything they wanna experience externally,
whether it’s weight loss,
whether it is healing some other type of weight physically,
whether it is also in all aspects
of the life’s relationships career.
So that’s what I do now.
And that’s what makes me a mindset coach.
JANNINE: I really like look at this whole concept
of coaching for your mind as a foundation to health, really.
And the trajectory of my practice
is very much going towards mindset as the first thing.
And then the health things we’ll take care of later
because like I mentioned already,
I had an email this morning that said,
“Why am I so fat?”
And this is from a long-term patient.
And every time I see emails or I get,
people are coming on and they’re so frustrated
about their weight and we’ve been trying to help
with the health.
I just get to the point where I’m just like,
I don’t, we’ve done all the things.
And I’m sure a lot of people listening right now
have done all the things for my health.
I’ve done all the things for my hormones.
I’ve done all the things for my gut.
And I hear this over and over again,
and I’m like, okay, but have we done,
we have not in the traditional medical model
that unfortunately I still work in
because I see insurance patients,
I haven’t worked on your mindset
’cause I don’t have time to do that.
And so let’s talk about this concept
of aligning your brain with what you’re doing
because so many people will cut their calories
or they’ll be like eating as clean as possible,
cut their calories, be working out two a days
and they’re still not moving the needle on the weight.
NATHALIE: Yeah, yeah.
JANNINE: Let’s talk about this.
NATHALIE: Everyone’s doing the right things.
I mean, they have you,
they have, there’s a wealth of information out there.
There’s so much research out there.
I mean, they have all the tools.
They’re doing all the right things,
but it’s what is proceeding their action taking
that is getting in the way of the action taking.
So what I mean by that is,
I created this success equation.
I mean, I guess I don’t know if I created it,
but I put it made it tangible to help people realize
that most of the time we’re looking at
what do I need to do to experience X result?
So what do I need to do to have more energy, let’s say?
They’re like, I need to sleep more, I need to eat.
This nutritious food, I need to make sure
I exercise this amount.
I need to make sure that I am maybe taking these supplements on vitamin C.
Let’s say this is what I need to do to get to where I want to be.
And they’re just focused on do, do, do, do to achieve, achieve, achieve.
It’s a very external focus.
We’re trying to find something outside of us to utilize, to implement,
to then get us to where we want to be.
But whether you consciously recognize it or not,
preceding all of your action taking is a set of thoughts.
And those thoughts are gonna fuel how you feel.
So my success equation that I teach to all of my clients
is the way that you think influences how you feel.
Then how you feel is gonna influence how you take action.
And then the action that you take from those thoughts
and feelings then are gonna fuel your results.
So whether you consciously recognize it or not,
there are always going to be thoughts or feelings
preceding your action taking.
And if those thoughts and feelings are not supportive,
your action taking is not going to take you
as far as you’d like.
And also those thoughts and feelings
might even get in the way of you taking action consistently.
So let me give you an example.
Let’s use the example, I want more energy.
And so if I’m constantly doing the things
that Dr. Jina is telling me,
and I’m eating the food, but every time I eat the food,
I’m thinking, oh my gosh, I’m so exhausted all the time.
Oh my gosh, I don’t know if this,
if I don’t know if having energy is meant for me.
Oh my goodness, I’m such a failure
because I’m only doing 80% of what Dr. Jinin told me.
And we’re thinking thoughts that are constantly
going against the thing that we want
or thoughts of doubt or thoughts of fear of like,
“Oh my gosh, can I really do this?
Oh my gosh, am I ever gonna have energy?
Oh my gosh, this energy and the cards for me.
Am I meant to have it?
Am I just one of those people who’s gonna be drained
of energy their whole lives?
Is this my destiny?”
And we’re always thinking thoughts
that are negatively impacting the results that we want.
And those thoughts, they feel icky constantly feeling
like you’re not allowed to have energy
when you’re doing all the things
to get you the energy that you want.
That feels icky.
And then when you’re showing up to eat the food
and you’re thinking, even though the food is like,
yeah, this is nutriciously dense food.
This is gonna help you with your energy,
but in your head you’re thinking,
“I’m so tired, I’m so tired, I’m so tired.
“I’m never gonna get not tired,
“I’m never gonna have energy.”
Then the way that your body is digesting this food
is backed by these thoughts of,
“I don’t get to have energy.”
And then of course, then your results are going to show differently.
Versus, if when you’re thinking thoughts of, I believe that energy is meant for me.
I’m seeing little bursts of energy pop up every day.
I’m so excited to continue to see progress.
That feels different.
That feels more expansive.
And then when you show up to do your workout, you’re doing it with a little bit more energy.
You’re like, oh, actually, you know what?
I feel a little better than I did yesterday.
Okay, we got this.
And then maybe you’re showing up
and you’re being even more intentional with your workout.
And then guess what?
When you evaluate your energy levels next month,
they’re higher, but it really all originates
with what you’re expecting, what you’re thinking
and how you’re feeling before you’re taking the action
to change your energy levels
or support your physical health in some way.
So that’s a little overview
on how there’s a connection between the internal world,
which is your thoughts and your feelings
and how they’re going to proceed your action taking
and how then that can then fuel your results
in a positive way or in a not so positive way.
JANNINE: Hmm, I could see that, you know, with fatigue,
I could see it with weight loss too
because every time you’re eating,
you’re like, this food’s gonna make me fat
or I’m not getting results.
I mean, I can see this in the whole spin.
Now, if we do take it over to career and being an entrepreneur and business choices, because
I think for a lot of people, career, business choice, side hustle, and really wanting to
do something we love and make it work, I think that for a lot of people causes a lot of health
issues too.
NATHALIE: Yeah.
So not aligning your thinking with what you’re doing in your business.
this have to, you know, like, explain how that tweaks into the business of things.
How does that work?
NATHALIE: Yeah, I do believe everything in life is connected.
So even though I do primarily work with business owners, entrepreneurs on their
mindsets, a lot of the times the reason that their business isn’t going the way
that they want it to is because there are mismatches and how they’re thinking
in another area of life.
So if you are really struggling with weight loss or hormone regulation or energy levels,
something that we’re going to look at, or we’re not just going to look at your health,
we’re going to look at how are you not supporting yourself well in your career.
And everything, I really do believe that if you in your career, you’re constantly feeling
like you can’t get ahead. If you constantly feel like you’re not where you want to be,
if you constantly feel like you are just struggling and maybe you’re some imposter syndrome and
procrastination constantly in your career, then chances are we’re going to see signs of that also
within your health as well. And so sometimes I really love to get people an access point.
So if someone’s really struggling with their mindset and their health,
sometimes it’s easier for us to change their mindset and their career first
and help them to start feeling different and seeing things different there.
And then we’ll transfer that, those elements,
those principles from their career will transfer it into health or sometimes we’ll
do advice for stuff.
And something we need to see proof of something and proof of results or proof of a concept working in one area of life in order to see it in a different area of life.
I’ve done it with relationships.
Like I realized that I was blocking a lot in my romantic relationships mentally.
And as soon as I started really working on that, then my business just skyrocketed.
And once I cleared that.
So it’s really just noticing that the way that I think
is laying a foundation for what I experience.
And if you are constantly thinking thoughts of,
I’m not good enough at my job,
I’m never gonna get that promotion.
I am going to be struggling financially forever.
Then chances are there’s an area of opportunity for you
there to shift the way that you think.
And we’re not saying,
let’s go to outer space with optimism here.
not just saying, “I am the best salesperson on the planet.
I am a multi-millionaire salesperson because you might not be there just yet.
We can set the sights on that at some point in the future.”
But just having it, having your thoughts shift to just feeling a little bit better
than the previous Icky thoughts were that it’s an area of improvement.
And I really believe in small steps,
because small steps add up to big strides.
And when you just shift, instead of thinking,
I’m always gonna struggle in my business,
or I’m always gonna struggle in my career to,
you know what?
I’m struggling a little bit now,
but I’m actually not struggling as much as I did last year.
So you know what, there’s progress.
There’s full of progress for me.
You know what?
I can do this.
It can get better, little by little by little.
And sometimes just noticing that and thinking that,
as I’m saying it, I’m like, oh, I get like chills.
I’m like, oh, that just feels so much better
than the previous icky thought.
Just that feeling alone is gonna support you
in showing up even more powerfully during your business
meetings, managing your team.
But then also guess what?
Then when it comes to showing up for your exercise,
eating a well-balanced meal,
you’re going to also start learning that.
Let me have some more progress thoughts.
Let me have just a little bit more thoughts
that are more hopeful, thoughts that are more expansive
with this, it’s just gonna be so much easier
because you’re not constantly carrying this weight
from your business or from your career
and that’s no longer going to be as heavy.
So then of course it’s gonna be so much easier
for you to be well rested,
to what you need to do with your nutrition and your workouts.
JANNINE: Gosh, you know, the little thoughts.
I’ve taken a lot of different mindset
and different courses, you know,
for the mind to help with making progress,
especially with the business.
And, you know, yeah, you’re talking about like,
when people have to write out repetitive thoughts
that you’re supposed to be thinking like,
I’m gonna make $10 million this year, whatever, you know,
my I laugh because my brain’s like, yeah, right, you know,
and so that’s kind of, I can see how that plays out
folks when it’s too big of a change, a shift. And I think the same thing goes with health,
too, if we pick too big as shifts, because so many people weight loss, you know, I want to
lose 50 pounds. Well, and two weeks later, why haven’t I lost 50 pounds? It’s like–
NATHALIE: We don’t want to lose 50 pounds in two weeks. That’s not going to be the best for you. Yeah.
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JANNINE: Crazy. So you know, one of the things that you
mentioned was procrastination. And I find that procrastination for a lot of my entrepreneurial
clients, myself included, seems to be one of those things where we can procrastinate with food,
like related back to diet and we can procrastinate with all kinds of different things and not end up
getting towards a direction we want to go. Can you give some insight into a little bit more into
procrastination, how that ties into mindset, even though like people are like, but procrastinating,
how’s that mindset? Like I’m just pretty.
NATHALIE: Yeah. Yeah. So procrastination, it also originated.
Like if we think about what exactly is it is when we put off doing what we know we shouldn’t be
doing and we find excuses for that. And if you think about it, think about it, that pattern
is originating in here. It’s not an external roadblock or an external problem. It’s an internal problem.
So if it’s something that originates in your mind, then of course it’s a mindset issue. It’s the same
with feeling like an imposter. It’s the same as anxiety. It’s the same as doubt. Where do these
things originate? These things that get in the way of us doing the things we need to do and
here. So there are signs of all around us, but people don’t necessarily know like, oh, okay,
it’s a mindset issue because it originates in here. So there’s areas of opportunity there to
shift. So with procrastination in particular, it’s a pattern. And it’s really just a protective
pattern. I know a lot of people are like, I just need to stop procrastinating. I just need to stop
putting things off. I just need to be better at managing my tie. Again, they are looking for an
an external solution for something that’s originating in here.
But really the way that you really
kick procrastination to the curb
is first recognizing that, okay, it’s a mental thing,
a mental roadblock, a mental pattern.
Number two, recognizing that it’s a protective pattern,
it’s not something that we have to be resentful of.
Actually, when I realize that,
oh, procrastination is trying to protect me in some way,
so I can, instead of being upset at myself
for procrastinating, I can maybe understand
a little bit why I’m procrastinating and be a little bit more kind of myself in the process
of trying to shift it.
And so with procrastination, it’s a protection mechanism because oftentimes the thing that
we are aiming for is outside of our comfort zone.
The thing that we want, which is weight loss, more energy, expansive business, is something
that we haven’t had before, or maybe something that we didn’t maintain before.
And that’s often outside of our comfort zone.
And we still very much operate as a species with deeply ingrained protective mechanisms.
We still don’t go outside of the norm.
Like I had the biggest anxiety episode that first year that I dropped out of medical school,
I had more anxiety than I’ve ever had in my life.
Consciously, I’m like, of course I want to drop out.
Of course I want to start this business.
Of course I know I’m going to be even more successful
and help even more people than I ever could
in the medical system.
Consciously, I was like, yeah, I can do this.
But subconsciously, my internal protective system,
I just was in fight or flight all the time.
I was like, oh my God, what is she doing?
Oh my God, she’s away from her family.
Oh my God, she’s going to struggle.
Oh my God, she’s our brain immediately goes to,
oh my God, she’s in danger.
Her life.
So whenever we step outside of our comfort zone,
This could be big things like life altering careers,
but this can also be not so big things
like finally becoming healthy,
finally supporting your hormones,
finally working on the weight loss journey
that you know you can achieve.
But it’s unfamiliar because it’s new,
it’s outside of where you are now.
So even though we’re at now,
is not where you want to be.
Let’s say you want to lose 20 pounds, that’s your goal.
Where you’re at now is still comfortable.
There’s a part of you that’s comfortable
within the body that you’re at now.
Not because you want to be here,
simply because it’s familiar.
So whenever we are having an action plan
with our nutrition or with our workouts
or with our hormones or whatever that might be,
where we are going is still unfamiliar from where we’re at.
And even though we might be swimming in health problems,
we might be swimming in just lack of energy
and our hormones totally out of whack,
it’s still comfortable because it’s familiar
because we’ve gotten used to being anxious,
we’ve gotten used to being overweight,
we’ve gotten used to being stressed.
And even though we don’t wanna be stressed
and overweight, we’re still used to it.
So what our brain will do as a protective mechanism,
it’ll use things like procrastination
to keep us in the familiar,
because we associate the familiar with safety,
a certain level of safety.
But really, it’s just a protection mechanism
based on your current awareness.
It’s not actually a conscious choice.
It’s usually just a subconscious protective mechanism
saying, this is familiar, this is safe.
Let’s stay here.
Let’s stay overweight.
Let’s stay drained of energy.
Let’s stay here.
We know how to be overweight.
We know how to be stressed.
So let’s stay here.
This is just how I am.
You hear people say that all the time.
It’s not how you are.
It’s just how you’ve gotten comfortable to be.
So procrastination will be the thing that pops up
to just give you a little like a little tap to your head
and say, “Hm, actually you know what?
“We’ll eat that meal later.”
Or, “Oh, you know what?
“We’ll postpone our workout to later.”
“Oh, you know what?
“We’ll do this health assessment later.
“It’s fine.”
But really it’s a very sneaky subtle way
for our brain to keep us in the familiar,
to keep us in our comfort zone.
So the way that we start shifting that procrastination,
whether it’s in health or in career,
everything that I teach is really applicable
to all areas of life.
So please take what you’re hearing here
and apply it appropriately,
so any aspect of your life.
But the way that we start shifting procrastination
is by recognizing, even though there’s a part of me
that feels that where I’m at now is safe,
where I want to go is actually even safer.
Where I want to go is actually even more wonderful
than where I’m at now.
And so this is where mindset work really is so powerful
and should be non-negotiable for a lot of people
is recognizing that when you set your sights on a goal,
your brain will try to sabotage it.
because your brain thinks that where you’re going
is not safe and uncomfortable.
But if you on a regular basis, tell your brain,
tell yourself, tell your heart, tell your soul,
tell your inner child whatever you wanna call,
tell your subconscious mind that, hey,
I know that it’s a little scary where we’re going,
weight loss and actually being like really
feeling very comfortable in our bodies
and feeling sexier and more energized than ever,
I know that that might feel really foreign,
but you know what, it’s still safe.
And making sure that as we are implementing
that new workout routine,
implementing that new nutrition protocol,
starting to do the new sales tactics,
starting to do the new lead generation,
starting to really grow that new business.
Alongside that, we are regularly telling our brain,
“Hey, I know this is a little scary.
I know you want to procrastinate it on some things to keep us safe
But we’re safe. There’s even more safety on the other side of this. There’s even more safety in your goals
There’s even more safety. There’s even more protection. There’s even more expansion on the other side of this trust me
We got this you’re safe. You’re protected all as well. I love you. I’m proud of you keep going you’re safe. You’re safe
You’re safe”. And so really all of this is an internal conversation of teaching ourselves to
really not listen to the protective mechanism that procrastination wants to
the narrative that that wants to speak. And overriding that and saying, “Hey, I have a new
protection narrative. We don’t need procrastination to kick in to keep us safe. I can remind myself
that I’m safe no matter what. And I’m also safe continuously as I pursue these different health
desires and career desires that I have.”
JANNINE: That is so profound because the safety thing, this is where I have, you know,
racked my brain a little bit on how do I help someone feel safe, right?
How do we, what do we do? Because a lot of it’s abstract.
So a lot of people are like, well, I have a roof arm in my head.
There’s no bear chasing. I am, I am good, you know?
And so the concept of like, I have to tell my body it’s safe, seems abstract.
But yet at the same time how you’re saying it like each time something comes up having like a mantra or something of that nature
Is that what you use like mantras and and different–
NATHALIE: True statements, whatever you want to call them. It’s really something that hits home with the part of you
That is trying to listen to the procrastination instead
JANNINE: That makes sense that makes sense. I mean so many of us experience kind of the emotional rollercoaster
throughout the day and the dysregulated kind of emotions,
especially going through perimenopause and menopause
because the hormones are shifting.
And so a lot of people will be like,
it’s just my hormones, right?
And I’m like, I wish we could blame it all in your hormones.
There’s some folks out there that are toutings,
you know, bioidentical hormones is solving all your problems.
And unfortunately, I don’t want,
I mean, people are believing that.
And unfortunately, I need to kind of step back and go,
no, no, no, I wish, I wish.
And so with the disregulated emotions and the nervous system,
is it the same concept, kind of going back to the affirmations,
finding out what works for you, finding your groove?
NATHALIE: Yeah, absolutely.
It doesn’t have to be super crazy complicated.
I always like to make the comparison to brushing your teeth
in order to have a great smile,
to have really good oral care,
just need to brush your teeth two times a day
and floss every day.
And it really only takes a few minutes.
I just went to the dentist last week and she’s like,
oh my gosh, your oral care is amazing.
I was like, thanks, I just stick with the basics.
I spend like five minutes a day on my teeth
but I do it regularly and I do it religiously.
And same as with our mental health and with our mindsets
and really having something foundational
that is supporting us and pouring into us
and allowing us to shift the way
that we feel on a consistent basis.
‘Cause I think anyone can say a mantra,
anyone can say any affirmation,
let’s use a very simple one.
That’s like, let’s just use I am safe.
That’s real.
Sure, if I say I’m safe, I’m safe, I am safe,
that has some power to it.
But if when I’m saying I am safe, I’m closing my eyes.
And I’m imagining, really feeling into how supported I am,
how every time in the past when it seems like
just crazy stuff happened and things went super haywire
that still somehow it worked out.
Yeah, sure, maybe there was page or maybe there was struggle,
but still I’m still here.
Like you said, I have a roof over my head, I’m supported.
When I say I am safe,
I feel into how truly supported I am
and how I’m really truly safe, not just physically,
but emotionally, maybe even spiritually for some people
who connect with that.
When I say I am safe and I really feel into what that means
for me ’cause it’s gonna mean something very different
me than it means for you. If you are taking one minute to just sit in that feeling of safety
every single day and then, cobras your teeth, then show up to work, then, code to your workout,
then eat your breakfast. It’s going to be a completely different emotional experience,
which is then going to translate into, sorry, my dog’s not going to stay. Then, it’s a really
wonderful physical experience, but it all starts with how we’re thinking, but also how we’re feeling
alongside those thoughts. So, a mantra and affirmation, I would say, if there are one or two things that
if your best friend reminded you of every day that would give you a boost, what would those things be
and tell yourself those things that can be in regards to your career, your health,
and not just tell yourself those things, maybe write them down, but make sure you’re also feeling
into what you’re saying. And just sitting in those, that’s why for a lot of people visualization
works really well because it allows them to access feelings for other people. Maybe they’re more,
I’m really big on learning styles. So maybe it’s writing your affirmations, maybe it’s saying
your affirmations. Once I had my brother do a recording of saying my affirmations for me,
and he did it like in a really goofy, fun way. So I was like, oh, these are great. So maybe you’re
or a learner and having that but really having these mantras be something or affirmations that it
really just takes one to five minutes a day but we’re really laying a powerful foundation for
how do I want to think today what mental foundation do I want to set for all the actions that I’m
going to take today and it really doesn’t have to take very long at all.
JANNINE: Wow. Just every single
day starting an off-right so that your body knows you’re safe and you’re going to do things a little
bit differently today. It’s gonna be scary. You might feel like you’re peeing your pants. You might
even pee your pants a little bit. That’s okay. But you’re safe. And having an internal, creating
an internal support system has been such a game changer for me and for so many of my clients.
And it really allows you to then allow the good to stay. Allows the weight loss to stay because
you feel safe in your body because a lot of people actually gain weight because they don’t actually
feel safe in the way, keep some safe. Or a lot of people won’t allow themselves to actually
continue maintaining business success because they feel unsafe having more money. But if you can
really cultivate an internal safety system, that’s how I really think mindset work is one of the
biggest components to sustainable weight loss, sustainable financial growth, sustainable
healthy relationships because you are creating, you are your own biggest fan, you are your own
support system, you are your own internal compass for safety. And you can really allow the things
that you desire to stay because you have built a practice of making sure that you’re telling
the inner voice that wants to disrupt that that hey we’re safe. So one of the best things you can
can do for just sustaining the progress that you really
ultimately want.
JANNINE: I think that’s pretty sage advice because so many people
are thinking for the external, you know, grasping at things
externally or the safe, right?
Or even just for comfort and, you know, to use that as an example.
And having your own internal safety system leads me back to when
I first interviewed a gal years ago on my podcast and she brought
up the concept of the vagus nerve.
And, and your fight or flight nerve that’s constantly sensing everything.
And, you know, she’d said to me, we have to find a way to tell ourselves, we’re safe and like, all is clear.
And I pondered that for a long time and worked with multiple folks on, on trying to explain how, how this works, right?
Because a lot of people are like, well, mantras, you know, etc, what do I do?
But being able to create your own system.
So I’m guessing that yes,
Montras can be one thing.
Guess the affirmations that your brother recorded.
I’m thinking like, is like the higher level of this
creating multiple things that work for you
and finding like a tool, like a tool chest
of things that you can draw upon?
NATHALIE: Yeah, I’m a big proponent of
don’t just do what someone else is telling you to do
to make sure that you’re doing something
that really connects with you and your values
in your lifestyle.
Like me, I have fur babies.
I don’t have human babies.
So my mindset routine is going to look very different now
than if I was a mom who had four children running around
all the time and being super busy in my life
just being different than it is now.
And so really making sure that how you are crafting
this experience is unique to you and to your lifestyle
and to your values and also making sure
that it makes sense to you.
So for example, I had a client who was very science background,
which I’m a science nerd as well,
but I know that sometimes that can give a little too much for people.
But for her mantras and her affirmations,
we really made the connection of when you are saying these or when you’re writing
these, you’re also taking very deep breaths.
And when you’re taking these very deep breaths, you are stimulating your diaphragm.
And what runs through your diaphragm?
Your vagus nerve.
The vagus nerve runs through your diaphragm.
So you are actively stimulating your parasympathetic nervous
system with these deep breaths.
And you’re really leaning into parasympathetic.
And you’re also saying these mantras.
And so it’s really just affecting your brain and your body
on a whole new level to say these in a calming state
to really affect your body in a different way
than just saying them blindly or maybe saying them while you’re on a run and you’re in like
full sympathetic mode.
So however you need to kind of shift it to make it make sense for you, I would recommend
doing that.
And for some people it’s while you’re brushing like if you’re a busy mom, busy parent while
you’re brushing your teeth.
And I would put a stick, you know, on my mirror, I did this once during while I was in medical
school actually when things are just really crazy, I didn’t have too much time for much
of anything, but I would have my sticky notes on the mirror or I would go during bathroom
breaks and I would sit and I would do a, I’m a big fan of headspace, the meditation app.
I don’t know if anyone’s familiar with that, but I would, there are three minute many
meditations and I would take a potty break between classes and I would go and I would
literally sit in the bathroom stall, put my headphones in and listen to this three minute
meditation and really make sure that I was pouring into my mind in those times.
So it doesn’t have to be perfect, doesn’t have to be this crazy, super high-tech complicated
system.
It can really be something that’s very simple and something that allows you to really feel
into what you’re saying and something that also fits your life.
JANNINE: Oh my goodness.
That’s refreshing.
That’s refreshing.
Something simple because I think we have a lot of complicated protocols out there that
just overwhelm people.
So I’m guessing in your mindset kickstart that you are kind of offering some of these
things and more.
Tell us a little bit about that.
And then of course we had to tell folks where to find you and all of those.
NATHALIE: Of course.
Yes.
So my mindset kickstart course, which I would love to gift to everyone and all of your listeners
who’ve listened to this podcast or listened all the way to the end here.
So if they want this mindset kickstart course, I think I shared it with you.
You can send it out to them, but they can also reach out to me.
I just mentioned the health fix and I can send it to them as well.
But the mindset kickstart course is really just teaching you to bridge that
gap between your internal world and your external world and how can we really get
in the practice of creating some really powerful mental habits that are going to
support the action that we want to take.
And I actually in the mindset kickstart course, I go through how to do it in health,
how to do it in relationships and how to do it in career.
So feel free to take all three or feel free to just apply whatever one you feel like you’re
really wanting to work on.
And really going through how can I identify some thoughts that are most supportive, but
how can I also make sure that I’m shifting into the feelings of those things?
And how can I really see that these thoughts are going to impact my outcomes very differently
than more elevated thoughts, more negative thoughts, more icky thoughts, really making
that connection with how are my thoughts directly impacting my goals and the results
and the action that I’m taking.
So I go through that in the mindset kickstart course and it really is the most foundational
course that I’ve created.
I talked about a few of the things here during our conversation, but also it really makes
it even more visual if you’re a visual learner and gives it you more of a step-by-step to
to create a small routine, very simple routine
that you can do regularly and you can really implement
and it doesn’t have to take a lot of time.
You can really start laying a powerful mental foundation
for any of the goals that you have.
JANNINE: That’s awesome.
That’s awesome.
Now you also have your free Facebook group
and you have folks who work with you one on one as well.
So let’s tell them about that, tell them about your website.
And by the way guys,
I’m gonna have everything at doctorjkrausend.com too,
but let’s give them all the details
and all the other ways they can interact with you.
NATHALIE: Sure, you can just search my name on Instagram,
which is N-A-T-H-A-L-I-E, B-O-T-E-Z-A-T-U.
It’ll, I’m sure it’ll be in the notes.
Just search my name on Instagram, you can find me on there.
And then also on Facebook, the same name.
I do have a free Facebook group,
it’s called Activating Success Community,
where I do do twice a month, free teachings.
It’s specifically geared towards business owners,
but again, I have people who are in the nursing field
in the engineering field that take what I teach in there
and really teaching you how to continue
to up level your mindset alongside the business strategies
that you’re taking.
So if you feel a little bit more pulled
to the entrepreneur business side of things,
that Facebook group is gonna be a really great resource
for you.
So just either reach out to me, either via Facebook
or Instagram and say, hey, I’d love to be added
to the activating success Facebook group
and be more than happy to add you on there.
And yeah, if you have any questions
or anything that you need,
feel free to just reach out either on Instagram
or Facebook.
Those are my top two places that I am.
JANNINE: Awesome.
Nathalie, thank you so much for coming on
and sharing so much information.
It’s refreshing for me to hear that there are simple solutions
for helping us feel safe and moving forward with our minds
and kind of aligning ourselves a lot better
to get what we want in life
and feel good about it.
NATHALIE: Yeah, yeah.
That’s the biggest key,
just really feeling good about it
and not feeling intimidated by it, feeling overwhelmed by it.
It can really be so simple
and it can make a big, big impact really quickly.
JANNINE: Good stuff here.
Thanks Nathalie.
NATHALIE: Well, thank you so much for having me.
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